Woman calls her father crying after separation, his 3 pieces of advice go viral

It can be difficult to confide in a parent, but sometimes the consequences can affect thousands.

A video posted on TikTok by Kat Jaranilla (@jaranillakat) has gone viral after she called her father while struggling with heartbreak. He gave her three pieces of breakup advice, which she shared with the world.

Jaranilla, 26, spoke with Newsweek about what prompted her to make the call and her father's selfless nature. Since the video was posted, it has been viewed over 780,000 times and received 90,000 likes.

“I had an hour-long crying session with my dad about how hard it is for me to move on after a nearly five-year relationship and here are three things he said that stuck with me,” she captioned the video. “I love you dad.”

Jaranilla's video showed viewers the phone call with her father. “It's been six months and I'm still here,” she told him, visibly upset.

Photos from Kat Jaranilla's TikTok video. The video went viral because it revealed three pieces of advice her father gave her after a breakup.


“That's fine,” he replied. “There is no timetable for healing.”

“Sometimes there's nothing wrong with you two,” he added. “Maybe you're just not meant for each other.”

Her father concluded on a hopeful note: “Maybe you'll get back together,” he said. “Just do your best to grow now so that when everything gets better, you'll be better for each other.”

Jaranilla told Newsweek that she called her father when she realized she couldn't cope alone.

“This is how I usually deal with pain, but I've found it to be much harder than I expected,” she said. “One desperate morning my chest got heavy and I just couldn't take it anymore. I called my dad and told him I was having a hard time moving on and accepting the separation.”

She said it was the first time she had called her father to get such advice.

“I was sad about the breakup, but I really wanted to open up because I didn't know what he was going to say and I didn't want him to be hurt by seeing me like that because I knew I was going to cry,” she said. “He just let me say what was on my mind.”

Jaranilla said the two only spoke for an hour because her father had to go back to work on his lunch break, but even that short time made a big difference.

“I felt lighter in my heart and better knowing he was there whenever I needed someone to talk to,” she said.

“A generous, loving father”

Jaranilla said she's heeding her father's advice, and the suggestion that she should work on herself now in case she and her ex ever get back together was poignant.

“It's meaningful to me because I know that neither my ex nor I are perfect and there are a lot of things we need to work on ourselves,” she said. “Now I can just look at this painful time as an opportunity to better myself without hurting anyone else in the process.”

Jaranilla revealed that her father was actually her stepfather – but she never called him that because he “always had the feeling that a real father should have.”

“He is a generous, loving father and we are very close because he came into our lives when I was about 5 or 6 years old,” she said. “After a few years, he decided to work abroad away from his family so he could pay for my and my sisters' education. That's one of the things I like most about him, how selfless he is.”

Jaranilla also added that her father thinks he is very handsome and funny, “but that is debatable,” she said.